Connecting and celebrating our Leather and backgrounds collectively Presented by Daddy Zulu and Ms. Jada

Decoding Attraction: How we see people Presented by Steward Dorian and Miss Nikki

Did you know that there are many different types of attractions that you experience? And not everyone experiences them the same way? In this class, we will be discussing several of the different types of attraction and how they may apply to you and the people you meet. By understanding the different types of attraction, you will better understand yourself and others. You will gain knowledge about how different attractions work and why you are attracted to different people. Learn such things as what A-Sexual and A-romantic really are and how trans and non-binary are included in the spectrums straight, bi, gay, lesbian, etc. Our titles and term are concepts; come learn how your personal attractions play a part in those concepts.

Rope Bondage: A connected moment Presented by Ms. Reemah

As a rigger and Sadist, Ms. Reemah finds pure gratification in the humiliation, pain, and suffering involved in rope. Through beautiful sadistic ties, experience the indulgence in this trusted, deep connection of a sadist and masochist. There are sure to be screams and giggles.

Friday Directors Discussion Series Presented by Master Talos, Sir Lisa, slave abby, and Domina Alluriah

SELF is beginning a multi-year project called SELF Directors Discussion Series. Mayhem presented by SELF is the first space we are beginning these meaningful conversations with MAsT Directors from all over the country. This series is a first of its kind and we look forward to generating connective exploration, deepened understanding of the Master/slave lives, and the intricate designs and thoughtfulness of M/s relationships.

We’re so very excited to have the Directors gather and share their expertise with us. Each panel in the series will provide a singular focus and not have repeat questions. You’re not going to want to miss the wealth of information these Directors are going to bring.

Saturday Directors Discussion Series Presented by Cynthia, Master IceDog, Mstrs Choc Trei, Floridadom

SELF is beginning a multi-year project called SELF Directors Discussion Series. Mayhem presented by SELF is the first space we are beginning these meaningful conversations with MAsT Directors from all over the country. This series is a first of its kind and we look forward to generating connective exploration, deepened understanding of the Master/slave lives, and the intricate designs and thoughtfulness of M/s relationships.

We’re so very excited to have the Directors gather and share their expertise with us. Each panel in the series will provide a singular focus and not have repeat questions. You’re not going to want to miss the wealth of information these Directors are going to bring.

Sunday Directors Discussion Series Presented by Cynthia, Master IceDog, Azereael, Mz Lisa

SELF is beginning a multi-year project called SELF Directors Discussion Series. Mayhem presented by SELF is the first space we are beginning these meaningful conversations with MAsT Directors from all over the country. This series is a first of its kind and we look forward to generating connective exploration, deepened understanding of the Master/slave lives, and the intricate designs and thoughtfulness of M/s relationships.

We’re so very excited to have the Directors gather and share their expertise with us. Each panel in the series will provide a singular focus and not have repeat questions. You’re not going to want to miss the wealth of information these Directors are going to bring.

In the Stands: A Bootblack Q&A: Presented by Bumper, Sparkie, and boy Andy

Don't expect the regular with this one!  These Bootblacks are bringing 3 questions they have been asked before to share.  They are then going to open the floor to you!  Bring your boots, bring your shine and bring your questions!

Collective Interactive Exploration: Hosted by Lady Catherine

Do you love hearing lots of points of view? Ready to play Lady’s Catherine’s infamous question game? It’s been visiting hot tubs and after parties-- it’s coming to Zoom. Come to listen, come to play, come to laugh, and participate if you like. If you choose in- you’ll get to pick the category of question. This should be fun, laughter filled and with a few serious moments also.

More Than Pain: Experiential Sensory Play:  Presented by Evie Lupine

We've all heard it or said it before: "which do you like more, stingy or thuddy?" What if those weren't the only two options? Often in the world of kink, our choices are limited to a narrow view of pain. Sensation play is relegated to the "newbie kink-lite" column, not something for the serious BDSM practitioner. In this class we'll discuss how to go beyond this dichotomy and do more with our scenes -- with pain or without. Then we'll dive into the senses themselves, and how each can be used to enhance your play in unexpected ways no matter your style; whether that might be deeper roleplay, falling into subspace more easily or creating a convincing playspace no matter where you are. We'll also cover options for long-distance and solo play. Whether you're a total painslut or complete beginner, this class has something for you.

Cigar and Cocktail Social: Hosted by Master IceDog 

Enjoy some social space with cigars, cocktails, mocktails and smoking conversation!

BIPOC Safe Space Hosted by boi Kaseem 

This weekend holds magic, beauty, and artistic expression from many different backgrounds and walks of life. This weekend also holds special significance for those of us who are Black, Indigenous, or a Person of Color. Come share space together as we rejoice in our highs, support each other through our lows, and revel in the glory that is a weekend of Mayhem. This is a BIPOC-only safe space with all the room to express yourself or stand with others as they share with us. Come for the conversation, stay for the community.

Erotica Reading: "The Concert" Written and Read by Sir Guy

A kinky couple exit a concert and seek refuge from a storm. They find shelter in an impromptu erotic interlude, succumbing to lust and desire with an intensity no force of Nature can match.

Queer Caucus Hosted by Fire Red

Nonbinary, Gender nonconformity and gender fluid, Oh My!  These terms can be very confusing and in a world that is ever evolving, change is always a constant and education is important in our community.  Join me at the Queer caucus of Mayhem as we discuss what it means to us to be nonbinary, gender nonconforming and genderfluid in a community that is newly introduced to more than just two genders, how important visibility is, and to help open a dialogue.

Escape Room Hosted by Devaena

You’re invited to come test your puzzle-solving skills and SouthEast LeatherFest knowledge against our Mayhem Virtual Escape Room. Collaborate with your fellow participants in a race against the clock where you must unearth the history of SELF and use the clues within to overcome the room’s challenges. Can you make it out in time? Come put your skills to the test and find out!

 

Transformation: Stories of Change Presented by Lady Catherine, Ms. Jada, and Mel 

Please join Mel, Ms. Jada, and Lady Catherine in this very personal panel. All of us have lived through unprecedented times and large scale sudden change. It is part of the fabric of living. Transformation is not always expected, wanted, nor designed until it is. This panel is going to discuss a myriad of lived experiences which have lead to transformation of our M/s, D/s, and kink lives. Don’t miss this groundbreaking experience.

Trans Panel: The Men of SELF Presented By Sir Bradford, Sir Luke, His victor, and boy Randi

Politics, legalities, freedom, choice, and the need to be able to move in the world without threat is essential and fundamental to freedom.  This panel is going to discuss where they are, how they arrived, and how systemic discrimination has crafted their choices, their lives and their crafting of healthy, meaningful, and authentic lives.

Seated Sadist: BDSM Impact Play for People with Limited Mobility Presented By Ms Morgan Thorne

This class will focus on impact and other complimentary, sadistic forms of play that one can engage in while seated (or standing for short periods of time). You do not need to be a wheelchair user - you could be someone who is chronically ill and gets fatigued standing, a person with pain who can't stand up for long, etc. If you think you will benefit from learning impact skills that you can do from a chair of any sort, this class is for you!

I am both a wheelchair user & a BDSM educator. I had to re-learn a lot of my kinky skills or adapt them to be able to become an effective top while remaining seated. I'm here to share what I've learned over my years as an abled and now disabled dominant /top/sadist.

There will be a combination of demonstrations, group questions and crowd-sourcing solutions to your issues. You can send in your questions ahead of time for anonymity or ask during class, whichever you prefer.

Corsets: Tight Lacing & Waist Training Presented By Ms Morgan Thorne

Corsets are the quintessential kinky clothing item. They are worn by people of all orientations and all genders for a variety of reasons. Corsets are meant to enhance the silhouette, trim the waist and give a pleasing shape to the body. Both waist training or tight lacing are a form of temporary body modification. Learn the ins and outs of these two, often complementary, techniques.

We will take a peek at corset construction so that we can better identify appropriate corsets when making a purchase. You will learn how to tell the difference between a ‘fashion’ corset and one designed to reduce the waist.

Participants will learn how to properly begin a waist training regimen that is sustainable long term. Tightlacing techniques for that perfect cinch will also be explored. Subjects such as sizing, sleeping in your corset and day-to-day difficulties will be discussed. Further resources for waist training will be provided.
Open to all genders & identities.

Primal Panel Presented by EmNJ_, and DiosaJax

Join us for a primal panel, Mayhem zoom style! Interact with a diverse group of experienced primals and primal players, get your questions answered, and find out what makes primals (or at least these primals) tick.

 

Virtual Mingle Hosted by Lady Victoria

Ready for something different than a ZOOM breakout?  Lady Victoria will be hosting a mingle for everyone!

She's going to use a new software program where you will be matched for a 3 minute one on one conversation with other attendees. You will need to be able to open a second window on your browser to participate. There will be games and ice breaker questions in each one on one available to get you talking! Come join so you can get to know SELF's and Mayhem's attendees! You will need to be able to open a second window on your browser to participate.

 Present: Mindfulness and flow for self-tying Presented by Shay Tiziano

Turning off your worries and being fully immersed in the moment can be challenging...especially now. After a brief discussion of safety for self-tying, this session will explore the concept of flow, and how to apply three key aspects of flow states to bring yourself into the present with self-bondage.

Free-form spiral-style floor bondage, fluid rope handling, and making self-bondage more intense (some might say "painful") will be discussed and demonstrated.

This session includes optional participatory activities – if you'd like to tie along, recommended supplies are at least two full (approximately 30') lengths of rope and an appropriate cutting tool.

 

Self-love through Healing Touch, Rope, and Dance: How to Alleviate Touch Starvation Presented by HoChiBound

The hardest part of temptation is being so close to that which you desire that with just the slightest extra effort you can touch and finally indulge. Even if you had the blessing of cohabitating with love ones, after such a long period without the variety of play and freedom and ease of affection that we are so used to, we are entering this critical period where need is at its all time high, willpower and decision fatigue is at its all time high, and the light is so close at the end of the tunnel... that can't we just cave in now and be done with it? Regardless of where you're at and what you want to do, if you want to find a way to serve and love yourself, this is the class for you.

I'll be your guide, leading you along exercises to do with me as we explore ways to sooth that touch starvation, feel more comfortable with your body, your movement, and your strength, and share ideas with each other. Bring your favourite lotion, textiles (fuzzy blanket) or comfort items, and rope.

 

Tying all Bodies and Rope Handling Presented by Ms. Reemah

Every single body is built differently, physically and mentally. We will discuss and conceptualize things we should always consider and practice when tying (and being tied) all genders, colors, and sizes. Rope is for every BODY.

 

 They Said It Couldn't Be Done: A Mixed-Media Montage Experience  Presented by Willow 

You can’t do that. This phrase, both spoken aloud and implied, has been a driving force throughout Willow’s life. From gendered barriers to technical challenges like self-tying an arms-in chest harness, a mix of stubbornness and creativity has enabled Willow to survive and thrive. This will-do attitude born of necessity has grown into a practice of finding joy in pushing the bounds of experience.

Take a walk through Willow's archives he shares silly, sexy, and serious snapshots of his passion for SM. This presentation will explore the beauty and zeal of his self-play and play with others. Join us for this retrospective montage and bear witness to several live elements of challenge and triumph!

Note: Play shown will primarily feature rope bondage and medical play (including needles, hooks, & staples, etc. but no blood will be shown).

 

Labels: Coloring Outside the Lines Presented by Master Talos/sassie sofia

We explore the importance of labels in understanding terminology and giving framework on how to address someone properly (title, pronouns, etc). We will also explore the constraint that labels may place on us or others. Labels can limit ourselves and others because of preconceived notions of self, our partners, and society as a whole. We will explore how to utilize labels as useful tools and how to break out-of-the-box when labels become a detriment to our selves, our growth, and our thinking.

This Is Sacred Sex Presented by Raven Essence

This is a performance of the erotica I have written throughout my kink journey! This is Sacred Sex is the title piece. This is a sexually-explicit poetry and prose reading to enliven the participants.

Music to Set the Scene Presented by Jeff-the-Bear

Most people already incorporate music into their BDSM play. This class will teach you how to take your scenes to the next level by using music and sound to control your partner's headspace. We will also explore new musical genres, creative scene ideas and other ways to make your scene more engaging. This class features short clips of awesome music and visual imagery. A list of sources will be provided as a reference.

 

Sploshing 101, and then some Presented by girl Calyco

Are you as hungry as you are horny? Do your fantasies involve sticky honey, whipped cream bikinis, or particularly phallic cucumbers? Have you ever considered the sadomasochistic potential of food? In this deliciously dynamic presentation, girl Calyco will discuss and demonstrate some of the basics of messy food play while answering your questions about sploshing. Let's lay down a tarp and play with our food!

Making Leather Last: Preserving Leather Theirstory and Legacy Presented by cody coyote

The leather community is not only rich in who participates but also in the stories and legacies they leave behind. In this discussion, cody coyote highlights the crucial roles and importance of institutions like the Leather Archives and Museum and Carter-Johnson Library, share their experiences in collecting oral theirstories, and proffer ways attendees may also partake in the preservation of leather into the future.

Tea Party: Spill your tea!!! Hosted by Ms Noël

Expect this to be interactive, participatory, and fabulous!! Bring your hats... bring your cups! Bring the TEA!!  Each person who is willing will bring your hats, your tea, your cups, your spoons and for 3-4 minutes tell us what is meaningful or fun for you about your tea time.  What do you love about it? Why do you drink it? What is it about the ritual of tea? Do you have a ritual to share?  Do you want to create something new around the sharing of tea?  Bring your answers and let's have tea together!!!

The Concept Of Consent Presented by Master Kaddan

The Concept of Consent will cover the idea of consent, both giving and receiving, as it relates to the BDSM and M/s lifestyles. We will review why consent is an important part of our lifestyle and the various issues that are at the forefront of this topic. Finally, we will go into the three types of consent as well as some of the popular models and philosophies having to do with the concept of consent. 

 

Barbed Wire: It's Not Just For Cattle Presented by JustRob/JodiBGood

Barbed Wire, a.k.a The Devil's Rope is a very versatile edge play implement. In this class, we will explore the use of barbed wire for bondage, for predicament, for impact, for aesthetics, and for blood. We will also discuss some safe-handled best practices and hygiene concerns with regards to playing with barbed wire.

Come learn that Barbed Wire is not just for cattle!

"What's a Leatherbaby?" Or, How you can be Leather and Little  Presented by JBaby

For some of us ageplayers, we also belong to another side of the kink community. For those that are interested in the BDSM and Leather world, it can be a tricky tightrope to walk. How can you keep your little side present in a dungeon or at the bar with your rougher friends? Where do you draw the line of boy or girl and little boy or girl? Do you have to choose one or the other? I was told I had to when I started as a Leatherboy, that you couldn't be both. And you know what? They're wrong, because yes you totally can!

Come share and discuss how to balance your enthusiasm and childlike nature with service and protocol. They don't have to be two sides of a coin. It can be one wonderful, childlike but helpful you. Hope to see you there.

Historical & Visual Narratives Panel: Presented by Sir Guy, Lady Catherine, Lady D, and Carlton

Lady Catherine, Sir Guy, Lady D, and Carlton TheDoorman are going to show you their past and significant moments in their lives. We’re bringing pictures and stories! The panel is going to start with pictures of when they came out.