Master Rick and slave ~gypsie~: SouthEast Master/slave 2010
Master Rick and I want to offer our deepest gratitude, thanks and love to all of those that assisted us, stood by us, supported us and critiqued us during the past year as we made our preparations and bid for the M/s title here at S.E.L.F. Without all of you, we would never have made it ... thank you from the bottom of our hearts. ~slave gypsie~ S.E. slave 2010.
Calendar of Events
December 18, 2010 - TarHeel Leather Bar Nite at Warehouse 29, Greensboro, NC
December 31, 2010 - New Year's Eve Party at La Fortress Greensboro, NC
January 1, 2011 - Presenting at T.M.G. (Triangle Munch Group) "Rewards and Challenges of a 24/7 M/S Relationship" Raleigh, NC
January 7, 2011 - MAsT: Raleigh-Durham, NC
January 9, 2011 ~Gypsie~ - CUFF Charlottesville, NC Special Presentation by Dr. Rein on "STD's"
January 28, 2011 9pm Leather Night at Club Cabaret in Hickory, NC
February 12, 2011 Master Rick & ~Gypsie~ Presenting for The Tarheel Leather Club at Warehouse 29 in Greensboro, NC 2-5pm
February 18-20, 2011 ~Gypsie~ attending "Servants Retreat 1" in Brownsville, NC
March 5, 2011 - ~Gypsie~ attending "The Society in Jacksonville, NC"
March 11, 2011 - Master Rick & ~Gypsie~ attending Triad Area Midnight Munch Meet 'n Greet, Greensboro, NC
April 16, 2011 - Master Rick & ~Gypsie~ - Presenting for "MAsT: Richmond" Richmond, VA (tentative)
April 17, 2011 - Master Rick & ~Gypsie~ Presenting for "MAsT: Baltimore" Baltimore, MD
June 2010 Column
The house is very quiet now. Everyone is gone. Master Rick has returned to work. My boy kenny has returned to Jacksonville, NC and his duty. It’s time for reflection, for remembering.
I remember faces mostly. Smiling faces. Faces full of encouragement, support and most of all ... hope. It’s overwhelming, the hope so many have placed in us, in me. There is the hope from the producer of the contest that Mater Rick and I do well, represent the contest to its fullest potential. There is the hope of the Community that we will represent their ideals, their wishes and their dreams to the best of our ability. There is the hope of our closet friends and our leather family to always honor our own beliefs and standards as we begin our new journey as SouthEast Master/slave 2010.
Then there is the hope and solid confidence in each other that we will present ourselves always with dignity and honor in all things, especially to one another. Hope is love and light. Hope allows for understanding and acceptance. Hope brought us to SELF in 2010 and hope for the future will sustain us throughout our run and beyond. Webster’s dictionary describes hope as “a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing or things to happen.” May we always strive to fulfill the expectations and hopes of those who placed us here; but more importantly, may we always endeavor to fulfill the hopes and expectations placed on each other as Master and slave.
Thank you . ~slave gypsie~ SouthEast slave 2010
Dec 2010 Column
Community Christmas by ~Gypsie~
Christmas is so many different things to so many different people, there is no one true definition that fits everything and everyone. Recently, a gentlemen said to me that he was having difficulty trying to figure out the Lifestyle because the boundaries are so blurry, the labels so varied and the rules changeable upon the person, the relationship and the situation.
And he was correct. That's what makes us what we are, who we are. We allow each other this freedom to be and express what we are inside, even when and if (and it usually does) it changes daily. Without that change, without that growth we become stagnate and judgmental. We would become close-minded within ourselves and each one of our smaller Communities within the one large one would become 'religions' of their own. Organized pods of people believing their way is the only 'true' way, their way is the one way to find redemption and happiness because it is the way that is the most comfortable for them.
Yes, it does make it more difficult; especially when just starting out and finding your way along the myriad of paths along this Journey. But what a fantastic view along the way. What wonderfully magnificent experiences as we cross those boundaries, nudge those labels aside while creating new boundaries and labels not only for ourselves but for others.
Each one of us fords a new path. Each one steps upon the footprints of our forefathers, leaving perhaps deeper grooves, smoother indentions, a more defined print or sometimes we unintentionally blur the outline even more until the next person steps in and then, there it is! You look back and see it clearly, as though it had been laying there waiting for you the entire time but only now can you see it, interpret it and use it to carry on.
Christmas is different for everyone. Some celebrate it, some do not. Our Lifestyle is different for everyone, some celebrate it and some do not; and it's okay! Because that is what truly sets us apart, that's what defines our boundaries, our labels and who we are. That is what makes us Community. We accept each others differences, each others foibles, each others protocols and rituals and most importantly, each others consistent inconsistencies.
Merry Christmas to my Leather, KINK, BDSM, GBLTQ, Poly, Swinger, Alternative Lifestyle Community and Family with love.
SouthEast slave 2010
April 2011 Column
Assumptions and Differences
We all have them, we all live them. Itʼs what makes us human, makes us unique within that which we regard as Tribe and Community.
Differences are what draw us to one another and sometimes, push us apart.
We revel in our diversity as a Community, accepting one another for what and who we are and walking the path we have chosen with pride and dignity.
So why then, do we have so much rift within a Community that has sworn to embrace its diversity and openness? It is because of these very differences that fissures begin and eventually, turn into valleys and then canyons that separate us from those same like minded individuals we want to be with.
It is not only differences in protocol, beliefs and orientation that can divide us as a people; and we are a people, we are the people of Leather, BDSM, Kink, LGBTQ and everything else that does not fall under the prescribed umbrella of normal and acceptable in todays society.
There are vast differences in the way one side of the country views leather history from the other; east vs. west. There are vast differences in culture and the way one speaks to and approaches another; north vs. south. There are even more conflicting differences between the individual families within our Community, whether leather or not, kinky or not, queer or not. The differences are what form the very basis of who and what we are while Community offers us protection and safety when needed.
The clicheʼ “Embrace Our Diversity” is just that, a clicheʼ unless it is truly lived and ascribed to in the daily living of our lives. That does not mean only in accepting someone because he or she may be gay or a switch or comes from a different household than another or even, a different region.
I am not speaking of contest or conference regions but regions of the country. We have traveled extensively this title year, Master Rick and myself. Each region [of the country] has its own flavor, its own style, its own set of rules, protocols and rituals. We have found that sometimes we, ourselves included, forget that we are not only dealing with a different set of ʻlifestyleʼ rules and the innate understanding each region has therein; but also we are dealing with a broader difference in the very basic understanding of regionally cultural differences.
Case in point and an example. Master Rick and I happened upon a well-known elder in our Community who was eating dinner with a companion in a venueʼs hotel restaurant.
Our personal and cultural protocol deems that we do not interrupt the personʼs dinner unless specifically waved or beckoned over by those eating. We were not invited to the table for conversation either by a wave, nod or by voice, so we proceeded to our table and thought nothing more about it.
The next morning, we were approached by the dinerʼs companion who stated the elder found us to be rude and arrogant for not stopping by to at least say hello. Master Rick and I were stunned, for in our minds, in our hearts and by our own cultural standards, we had paid the elder the highest compliment in ʻnotʼ disturbing their meal.
Thankfully, after some discussion with the elder, we came to an understanding and in fact, all of us were unintentionally educated by the incident. An assumption was made and a conclusion drawn all on the basis of our cultural and lifestyle predilection towards commonality. We speak of diversity as individuals, leaders and within our groups on a daily basis, yet a small misunderstanding like this one, could have blossomed into a fullfledged controversy because we failed to truly embrace our diversity both within and out of our chosen way of life.
It is in the little things where we can make a difference. A simple thank you, a nod of the head, especially when in unfamiliar territory, can mean the difference between making a new friend or creating a maelstrom of gossip and misunderstanding between likeminded individuals. If someone does not speak to another or approach them about a situation, it may well not be because they are being rude, non-communicative or worse; want to cause a shit-storm of gossip and rumor mongering at all. It may well be that their own protocol(s) or that of their culture, demands otherwise.
Assumption of behavior versus embracing or at least being aware of our individual and regional differences can go a long way toward smoothing unintentionally ruffled feathers, hurt feelings and perceived slights and will go a longer way toward healing unintentional rifts, misunderstandings and possible chasms that could and most certainly would eventually be, harmful to us as individuals and as a Community.
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Margaret: SouthEast Bootblack 2010
Calendar of Events
August 21: FIST Baltimore/Washington; "Are you New? Dungeon 101 and Etiquette"
August 28: SAF Spring, TX; Bootblacking 101 and Erotic Bootblacking
September 3: BR 101 Night, The Crucible; Washington, D.C.; Bootblacking demo
June 2010 Column
SELF 2010 celebrated 15 years of community. A community I have come to call home over the past 3 years. A few weeks ago I was approached by Catherine Gross about holding the title of SouthEast Bootblack for another year. The decision to hold the title for a second year was not an automatic one. It was one that took a great deal of thought and consideration. After discussion with my family, and a bit of negotiation *grins* I am honored to say I am SouthEast Bootblack 2010. Although not stepping down as such, I did prepare some remarks for the SELF Celebration and Contest so I could share with the SELF family what my year had looked like. I share them with you all here now.
What a year it has been! So many adventures and opportunities for community building.
I traveled to places as near as 20 minutes from my back door to as far as San Francisco. I learned quickly just how to get a bootblack kit through airport screening and bless Southwest Airlines and their bags fly free! After traveling approximately 20,000 miles, I can see just how far and wide our tribe extend and the beautiful diversity that it encompasses… WOW just WOW!!
It began with American Brotherhood Weekend in New Orleans and never slowed down. I had the privilege of representing the Southeast region at the first Philadelphia Leather Pride Night. I attended SouthPlains LeatherFest and International Ms. Leather in support of my title family during their competitions and was proud to call them family.
How could I forget seeing Karen/Ultra as Ms. Clause at the 12 Days of Christmas Fundraiser in Baltimore… so much fun. Presenting at Whippersnappers in Atlanta was a highlight but heading to Tennessee for SJW was a coming home of sorts for me. This year also provided opportunity for involvement with my local community. Thank you RSVP for providing a place to come home to.
Everyone I met during my year touched my life in some way. pony – reminding me to rock it out regardless of what the world throws at you. slave barb—who reminded me what stories are really about. And a dear friend who in her second youth of her 70’s discovered what it is that we do. There are so many more… but Nic limited me to 3 minutes so for a few thank you’s…
Sir Kris and Kendell – for being there always! Y'all are amazing
The SE Bootblacks who have come before me – Y’ALL ROCK!! Thank you for the legacy.
Solitaire, my Princess Sister – That sums it up, no other words needed. Thank you for being you
Everyone who supported me throughout my title year – thank you from the bottom of my heart, it truly takes a village
The SELF Board – Thank you for your hard work and dedication to this amazing event. It gives us all a place to come home to.
Lady Catherine – WOW Amazing producer! Thank you for your dedication to the house that Jack built. I look forward to another year.
My owners Lee and Buz – your unwavering support and love smoothed out the rough spots and made the good times all the better. I love you so very muc
Amber: Ms. SouthEast LeatherFest 2010
2018 Update: In this time post title, amber had a child, and is raising her family and moved up North. She has grown in ways that are wonderful, completing and so far the best part of her life. She is excited to explore her new surroundings to find new friends and community.
Calendar of Events
Transformus: July 16-18, Ashville, NC (http://transformus.com)
Burningman: Sept 1-6, Black Rock Desert, NV (http://burningman.com)
Athens MAsT Sept. 17th
Alchemy: Sept 31-Oct 3, Layfayette, Ga ( http://alchemyfestival.com)
Poly Family Weekend: Sept. 17- 19, Atlanta, Ga (http://www.polyfamilyweekend.org)
January 27, 2011- Whippersnappers Monthly Social @ Manuel's Tavern(Atlanta)
January 28, 2011 Fetish Fair Fleamarket- Spinning music live in the dungeon (Atlanta)
January 29, 2011 Feitsh Fair Fleamarket- providing music for the dungeon (Atlanta)
Febuary 19, 2011- The Mark (Frolicon's Studio 54 party)
Whispering Oaks Luau & BBQ (Al, http://whisperingoakscamping.com/pricing--directions.html ) April 15th-17th)
Frolicon (Atlanta, Ga http://frolicon.com ) April 21st- 24th)
Euphoria (Cherokee Farms, Lafayette, GA) - June 17th-June 19th
Transformus (Ashville, NC) - July 15-18th
Burning Man ( Black Rock City, NV)- Aug. 29th- Sept. 5th
June 2010 Column
i would like to tell you about my experiences this past weekend running for my very first leather title. As i started to write them down i realised that almost everything that happened last weekend including me deciding to run was because of my leather sister beth. i have many many people to thank and i will be thanking them forever for all of the things they did to support me this past weekend. But From the very beginning in my journey she has been there, she was even there the very first night when i was shown the fetish community.
i almost decided not to run because i am uncollared. i was afraid that maybe this was something i could not do on my own. What i learned was that i am not alone at all. From the moment i started working on my baskets she was there, she sent me the first donation that i received. She then went so far as helping me acquire a medical kit of one of my baskets because she knew i really wanted one in there. She read over my bio and my speech. She put me in touch with past contest winners for much needed advice. She also kept me level headed whenever i started to get overwhelmed by the whole experience.
When i arrived at the hotel Thursday night she was texting me and calling me to make sure i got in alright. She knew i needed to meet the judges Thursday night and that i was very very nervous. She continued with the kind words via phone before her plane trip and even on her way to the hotel. i felt her holding me together when i went to meet every single judge. i thought of her poise and grace and tried my very best to emulate it. When i laid down to sleep that night i couldn't help but smile.
The next morning as i was eating breakfast and reading over my speech yet again, my phone range. It was beth checking to be sure i ate. She asked me to come to her room before i went to the first contestant meeting. When i came to her room she gave me a lovely little gift bag with a perfectly worded card. In the bag was a small gift box, inside that box was a beautiful leather braided bracelet with a silver engraved heart. On the heart it said "sister of my heart", on the back it said "Love, beth". i of course cried, I think if you clocked me over the weekend i cried on average about every twenty minutes or so. But this was the first time i cried over the weekend. i felt so honored to receive such an amazingly thoughtful gift. Over the weekend i drew so much strength from this bracelet. i looked at it every single time i was nervous, which was a whole lot.
She made sure i ate throughout the weekend. She even almost missed her meal Friday night trying to help me with last minute basket items. She gave of herself all weekend and asked for nothing in return. The basket auction was an up and down experience for me. When she saw me having a rough moment she came right over to hug me and check on me. A lot of people made sure i got through Friday night. i went to bed feeling a bit drained and shaky. i couldn't quite get to sleep, i realised my pants for my suit the next morning were still wrinkled. i struggled with the iron and they still didn't look right. Who was in my room ironing my pants at 2am? beth. She brought me cookies and calmed me right down.
But i woke up looking at my bracelet. i bounced out of bed 45 mins before my alarm went off and trust me i am not at all a morning person. i went to Starbucks and bought a ton of coffee and tried to eat some breakfast. All i could think about was the interview coming up. beth called to make sure i had my coffee and breakfast. She kept checking on me both before and after the interview. The interview was intimidating but an amazing experience. The questions really did make me think about why i was there. Even though i was nervous and I'm sure i stuttered a few times and had to restart and answer of two, i was so glad that i had gone through this experience. i left the interview completely unsure of how i did. Everyone else seemed to have an idea if they did well or not. i had honestly not a clue.
Beth helped pull me together yet again. She helped me herd the cats for my fantasy. OK, yes, seven people may have been a lot to add to a fantasy. But i am so thrilled that i did. She watched and told me how it looked from the crowd. Then she insisted that i go take a nap and get ready for the evening. i laid down for a bit. i might have slept a tiny bit but I'm not sure. i took a very nice bath which relaxed me. i then realised i wanted some warm food. Before i could even get dressed to go find some my phone rang and beth was ready to go find me some food. She went and found some incredibly tasty pizza which she shared with my roommates and i. It was such a nice little break before the evenings events. We laughed and relaxed and it felt amazing. She told me to make sure i was downstairs for the step down reception. So, i brought my things to the green room and then started being social for a little bit. My mind was of course on the evening ahead. But it was so very nice to talk to everyone and it was again a nice little break.
i was the first to give my introduction. i ended by saying "i am perfectly imperfect", because it was how i felt all weekend. When i walked back off the stage i felt a whole bunch of stress just walk away. Beth had send a lovely girl down to the green room to help her and i get me ready. They both helped me put on my corset and outfit for my speech. i then realised i had forgotten my ribbon for my hair for the snow white fantasy. beth went up and got it and ironed it for me. She was even back in time to watch my speech. Giving that speech was a break through moment for me. It was the one thing i was most afraid of. i knew what i wanted to say but i thought i would lose my place or not be able to get all the way through it. Before i walked onto the stage she hugged me. i looked at my bracelet when the mic cut out and kept calm as i was handed another. Looking out on the audience i couldn't focus on anyone person. i just began to speak. Everything that had been welling up in me over the weekend came out in that speech. i had moments of wondering if i should be here at all. When i finished my speech and i could see the faces i knew for the first time for sure that i was supposed to be there.
i was crying after my speech, but they were positive tears. beth pulled me right back together stripping me down and putting on my snow white outfit. i went from being an emotional wreck to being a tarty twisted little girl. My fantasy was so much fun! It went off better then i could have imagined. Also, i did not realize that after the fantasy they were going to bring me back up on stage and i was freaking out behind that apple at least a little. That fantasy tosses out all of the nervousness left in my body.
i honestly couldn't tell you what i said for my pop question answer. i think by this point i was on auto pilot. i remember it was a good question. But not much else. This was the fastest part of the evening for me. Before i knew it i was off stage and being dressed again. This was the point were the reality of everything hit me pretty hard. i was standing back stage with beth and it hit me that i had not won. i realised that i had put every part of my heart into this contest. Something in my mind said that might not be enough. i knew it meant a lot to me. But i don't think i realised how much until that very moment. i started to cry. It was at that moment that people started yelling for me from the stage. They said i had won. But i didn't believe them. i felt people pushing me to get out on stage. beth was smiling and laughing. i was still a wreck. i don't remember too much about being on stage at that point except we couldn't get the medallion's clasp to work. A lot of people took pictures and hugged me. i couldn't stop crying. i remember the smiles on the judges faces and the very sincere hugs they gave us all. Someone said welcome to the title family. For a moment i felt like i had been invited to sit at the adults table for the first time.
The rest of the night is a blur. i didn't have to worry about any of my things because beth brought them all to my room. She made sure i had a glass of wine and she hugged me and told me how proud of me she was. That meant more to me then anything. She also did yet again another amazing thing for me. She knew that i did not have a ticket to the breakfast the next morning. She worked her magic and made sure i had one
The final morning at SELF was truly an amazing one. The breakfast was wonderful. The speech that Master Larry and slave barb gave was so inspiring and beautiful. i would have missed it if it hadn't been for beth. Honestly, i would have missed this entire experience if it hadn't been for her. She is the one who told me i could do this. She is the one who held me when i cried. i am so very blessed to have her in my life.
So, this year as i hold my first title i am determined to make my sister proud. i am determined to make all of your proud. i will represent you to the absolute best of my abilities and i will not let you down.
October 2010 Column
The last couple months have been a whirlwind of activity. i have been doing exactly what i set out to do, which is take SELF and Bdsm education to places that it had not been before. i have been to Transformus, Burning Man and Alchemy. i have been helping lead discussions, working on teaching my first classes and holding masturbation parties.
This past weekend was Alchemy. It was amazing. i was able to wear my awesome vest with my Title Holder patch on it. It was fun answering questions about it and about SELF. One of my highlights in my vest was spinning fire fans for the first time! i was a part of Camp Fucking Awesome, a sex positive theme camp at Alchemy. We help sexual education classes, parties, a human potluck buffet and ofcourse one of my masturbation parties. i had a very unexpected and touching moment the morning after my masturbation party. There was a woman who had been to
the party, she had come to it because her husband has cancer and she has not had sex in close to two years. She approached me to tell me that she needed some tips on masturbation as she had never done it before. It made me want to cry. i hugged her and we talked about it for a while. It has made me realize that i would like to have some open
discussions about masturbation before these parties, as everyone does it differently and honestly you just cannot have enough education on so many subjects. It was a delight being around so many like minded people and meeting new people who had never been opened up to this world. i cannot get the smile off of my face!
i would love to do more with helping others and their events. So, i am looking for groups that need help with fundraising, classes, providing music etc. Please feel free to contact me at if you have things you would like me to be a part of!
Jan 2011 Column
Looking back at 2010 i cannot help but smile. This year has been full of growing experiences
. i won my first title, this experience was so much more emotionally raw then i ever expected. i learned that pulling from my past, the good, the bad and the sometimes ugly, i can find inner strength and give myself a backbone. i have been expanding my choosen family and have been thrilled by the support, but have also been very happy that i am learning to stand on my own when i need to.
i went to my first Burningman and even played a little in the middle of the desert. i learned that even in the harshest environment you can find some truly lovely things. i also attended more regional burns and did my best to represent SELF at all of these events. Being a title holder has helped me find even more new people that hadnt found the scene yet.
My hopes for this year are that i can attend many more events and help represent SELF. i am looking forward to the new beginings that this year will bring.
Please contact me if you are looking for a volunteer for your events ( grunt, dj, speaker, demo bottom, etc). i still have plenty of space in my calendar for more events.
April 2011 Column
The past few months have been busy and wonderful! I have had several great opportunities to do things as a title holder. I think I am starting to really understand what this title means to me.
In February I had the chance to travel to Nashville for the Studio 54 party that was held at the Mark. The Frolicon crew put together a very fun event unlike anything I have ever been a part of. I spun disco music in a dungeon for many hours. At first I wasn’t sure how this would go. Disco is not the type of music you expect to play to. I was pleasantly surprised by how many people costumed for the event. I was even more surprised by how many people played to the music. I had one of the most surreal moments on my life that night: I was playing “I will survive”, six different scenes were taking place. I noticed at one point that all six scenes were in time to the music and at least two of the submissives/bottoms were mouthing the lyrics. It was truly a one of a kind sort of night, one I very much enjoyed being a part of.
In March I was asked to present my first class at Whippersnappers here in Atlanta. I was very nervous. I always seem to be a demo bottom, never a presenter. I think that is my normal comfort zone. But I really wanted to try teaching a class. The class was on making scene music more a part of your scene. When I started talking my hands were sweaty and I felt my heart trying to beat out of my chest. I am pretty sure I was speaking a million miles a minute for most of my class. But people really seemed to enjoy it. I was asked a lot of very good questions and I hope to do more classes. After the class Whippersnappers did something really amazing for both Noel (Ms. Olympus Leather) and myself. They held a scene auction as a fundraiser for the two of us. I was so surprised by the generosity of this community. I feel so proud to be a part of it!
This month was Atlanta Leather Pride. I went to the Eagle with Noel. I had never been before and must admit I was a little nervous. I have been to other leather bars and was not sure what it would be like. Honestly, I have never felt more welcome. I met some amazing people in and outside of the community. I got to dance and talk with lots of people. I unexpectedly ended up in a staple demo. I have to laugh a little. I am at the Eagle for just over and hour and here I am in my darth vader underoos and a bra stapled to a lovely boy! It was a truly wonderful night for me. I hope that this is the beginning of many nights at the Eagle. I also hope that I will get to participate in more leather events around Atlanta.
As I write this I have a very large smile on my face. I have so many more things I want to fit into this year and I am truly looking forward to all of them!
Phantom Blue: Mr. SouthEast LeatherFest 2010
Calendar of Events
July 24th Hosting Social for CAPEX (come see Lady Ds race play demo)
July 14 - 18 West Virgina Presenting on Daddy & boi @ CAMPOUT Walton, West Virginia
July 31 - Dinner in Atlanta -
August 7 Working Warehouse Job all weeekend! Blah
August 12-15 Las Angeles California Patheon of Leather / International Olympus
August 27-29 Fri / Sat / Sun Ottawa Canada
Ottawa Leatherfest VI, and Gay Pride
Sept 18 The South Carolina Leather Contest (Den Daddy)
Sept 24 - 26 Charlotte North Carolina Fetish Fair Flea Market
October Atlanta GA, Southeast Olympus
November 6, ARM Atlanta GA @ 1763, Presenting Strap on Sex with and Perthman!
December 11th for the Formal Leather Ball fundraiser for NCSF, Presented by House of Decorum
June 2010 Column
What a fantastic weekend! I have often said that I already felt like I was part of the SELF family even before I ran for the South East Title and if you have ever been to SELF before….you understand why I feel this way. This year was a little different than last year for me. I didn’t get to attend many of the classes due to running around getting everything ready for Saturday night, however; I did get to see everyone’s smiling faces and all the good lucks, hugs, kisses, and support was just unreal. The energy of the whole weekend filled the whole building as soon as you walked in. I have to say my nerves were “kinda” a wreck on the drive down trying to remember if I had everything and making sure everything was packed excluding the kitchen sink (in a rain storm of course). As soon as I walked through the door…. Everything was lifted; Old friends and new faces covered the floor. I wasn’t even able to register that night because of all the excitement of seeing so many friends from ALL over the South East and further. I also got to meet a few new people that are sure to become great friendships.
I am so honored to have been a part of SouthEast LeatherFest 15th Anniversary and words cannot even describe what it feels like to have the privilege of holding the Mr. SELF Title.
The biggest surprise (other than seeing the SELF BUTTERFLY naked as I was getting ice) was the SELF Leather Patch. At first I thought it was a prop for pictures and had no idea it was for my vest!! It’s amazing!!!
I will be removing the NCLC 2009 patch that I treasure and after much thought, and the key note speech made Sunday by Master Larry and slave barb, I have decided to donate the NCLC patch to the Leather Quilt Project. It took a lot of thought and although I hate to part with such a big part of my Leather Journey of 2009, I know it will be preserved through time. Thank you Master Larry and slave barb for such a wonderful and inspirational speech.
I would like to thank EVERYONE involved in making SELF such a GREAT event!
A special thanks to all those who donated to my auction basket this year. Bullmoose paddles, Miss Rae & pet, Master Sergeants Wood n Leather, Evil Geoff and Ms. Tori, Boot Black andy, Whispering Pines, Master Pam, Uncle Abdul, and Heart & Chainmail.
I’m looking extremely forward to this year and serving the community as Mr. SouthEast LeatherFest 2010! I can’t be any prouder with all smiles as part of the SELF family. Thank you all so much for all your support!
October 2010 Column
I recently read a thread on-line discussing how winning a Title is just a pre- determined fashion show. This was very disheartening to me. During my run for Title at SELF not only do I feel I put my heart and soul and only presented my “true self” I also grew from listening to my judges advice, the support of the community , the support of Lady Cathrine and her staff and so many more. It takes a lot to run for a title and although many just see the on stage fun, it’s a lot of work and truly a rewarding growing experience. It just doesn’t stop there,,, After receiving the honor of such a pristine title you must travel, reach out to other groups, volunteer, be there and represent your title in a manner that reflects what SELF is. SELF is many things to me. First and foremost its part of my extended family. It’s a place to come together and celebrate Leather and Love and everything in between. Now how do I take all I have received from SELF and holding the Mr. SELF Title? Work hard for the community as a whole, Reach out to groups and do what I can to make a difference by volunteering, presenting, fund-raising, attending, or anything else I can. It’s not about wearing a SASH, it’s about your Leather heart and soul and being a Leader for your community. I will always do my best to work hard in building Our community and represent honourably.
I have also set a goal that I hope all will support. The LAAP Event Calendar ( The Leather Aids Awareness Project Event Calendar)
With the help of slave gypsie (M/s SELF 2010), I have recently started this project to help bring awareness to the community not only to promote safe sex but also raise money for those living and infected with HIV/AIDS .
My goal is to have 2 sets of calendars, one full of Leather men and one full of Leather women. Even if your straight, gay or in between you have a calendar that list upcoming events, full of hot leather bodies, and all the money gets donated to help aid those living with HIV/AIDS. This can also be something as a collectors item to bring to events to have signed by those who "pose" in the calendar.
I'm just getting started on this project and gypsie is in the process of helping get the website up and running. Ill have more information in the following weeks; however, if you have any questions or suggestions please contact me at
Along with the calendar, this year has simply been amazing. I'm gonna try to make this short and not too drawn out on how proud and honored I have been to be a part of so many wonderful groups and events.
Miss Jenn, proprietor of Breathless, the pan sexual play space where Ottawa Leather Fest is held, was covered in a capping ceremony and is now formally known as Miss Jenn Ma'am. She was also inducted as the newest member of Mama's Family. Miss Jenn was a nominee for Woman of the Year at Pantheon of Leather XX and I can see exactly why!!!
Miss Jenn was simply fabulous, as well as having a rocking body!! She made me laugh the whole night and honestly I’m gonna miss being around her great energy. If you ever get the chance to go to Breathless,, It’s well worth the trip!! It was extremely powerful and moving to get to be a part of her ceremony and although we just met I’m sure our paths will cross again and I can be proud to say I was a part of this special moment in her life.
I was honored by being asked to be a judge for The South Carolina Leather Contest.
I would like to congratulate the winners of The SCLC Pat (saddlebag's slut)who earned the Title of SC Bootblack and Sir Dan (Dannase) who earned the Title of Mr. SC Leather 2010
Thanks to Master Regi for all is hard work for making this a fantastic contest and Ms Jan and the House of Decorum and ALL the volunteers for making a FANTASTIC MEAL for all of us The members of The Leather Order of the Midlands for their support
Along with everyone else who volunteered and helped out the T3WD &7Th Annual Vendor Fair was off the chain!
Master Regi also invited me to be a part of Rainbow Radio in S.C. discussing Leather, and BDSM. This was also a great privilege and honor however it was a little strange with a huge microphone in your face.
Fetish Flea Fair in Charlotte N.C. was fantastic this year and props to CTan for all her hard work!
Camp Out W. Virgina I had the privilege of presenting 2 classes. This was my first time attending Camp Out and it was truly a positive learning experience.
The Society ( Jacksonville BDSM Group FetLife) This is one group if ya get the chance to visit is the shiz dig! I cannot tell you how much fun I have at Ms Dis. This has truly become a second home for me (even if I have to drive 5 hours one way) Its SO worth the trip! Even before or good byes I already miss the friends I have made there. Ya Might even get the chance to under Beef Cakes kilt! ; )
I have also been able to attend a few new munches that are starting off with a bang! Burke County Munch group along with Catawba County Munch Group. Only problem is I'm now stretching my Leathers from all the weight I'm gaining.
There is one other very special person I would like to mention in this column and that would be Ms. Jan of The House of Decorum. She is having The Formal Dinner and Leather Ball on December 11 for NCSF. I really cant even say how much I look up to this amazing woman and ALL she does for the community. She is truly a rare jewel and is always looking into what she can do NEXT to help out in the Leather Community. She is someone I respect and look up to every day. I will be attending The Dinner along with my very first MAST meeting coming up this Friday!! Look forward to seeing everyone as well!!
Mr. SELF 2010
January 2011 Column
Happy New Year Everyone!
This past year has went by so fast and has already started out with a kink explosion.
To start off the year I attended The Asheville Kinksters Association Munch which drew out a record number of 47 hungry kinky people. It was great seeing everyone come from ALL areas including allot from S.C. to support a munch.
This was a very special munch for me as well for several reasons I would like to share....
After the munch, a bunch of us decided to head to a local gay bar to hang out, catch up and continue the energy from the munch. This bar (Hairspray) just happen to be one of my old hang outs from long ago BEFORE I found out there was even a community or even a name for me besides "Your a Freak" It seems every time I "hooked up" with someone as soon as I gave them a smack on the ass they would run or just say they weren't into it.
Now I tell you this because at the after party we all started dancing and I had ask permission from someones Master if I could give His girl a spanking on the dance floor over a table, He said she would love it so I dragged a table to the middle of the dance floor and spanked her to the beat of the music. After we had both came down from our highs from the scene it had occurred to me what a release this one scene had been. Not only have I grown and continue to grow and learn but I had found others that excepted who I was. I have not only found acceptance in the community but now feel comfortable and except myself.
Although we had pretty much taken over the bar with all who had came from the munch, there were still a few " vanillas" standing around. Although I'm sure a few were thinking "what the hell is that all about" I'm sure there were others just as myself so long ago knowing now they are not alone in the feelings they have buried deep and knowing now they are not alone. It seems every encounter I have with members from the lifestyle, such as this one, has meaning, growth, and new experiences that I will always cherish. This was defiantly how I needed to start the New Year,,, Surrounded by Leather spanking to a good beat!!!! I look even more forward to visiting more groups meeting, sharing, and just spending time with others who at one time thought they were freaks and now know that even freaks come together as a community just as they have for many many years before and many many more to come!
Yours In Leather
April 2011 Column
This year is going by so fast I can’t believe it’s almost time again for SELF. These past few months have been such a world wind of pride and honor to be part of the SELF family. I was given the great opportunity to be a judge at this year’s North Carolina Leather Contest. This day was very important to me for several reasons. Last year I was unable to attend and step down as Mr. NCLC due to a family emergency. This was hard for me not to have closure and thank those who had supported throughout my Title year as the NCLC title holder. That year was also the year I was introduced to Miss Bettie who at the time I was running was the contestant handler. We soon became close friends and I cherish her friendship and support she has given me. Through the years we have laughed, cried and even sometimes disagreed but she has always been there not only for me, but for the community. I was astonished when she told me that she had not earned her boots. I could write a book of things she has done and volunteered for but for journal purposes I will just say it was the right time, place and energy to present her with her boots. She earned them and I am so proud to be the one who presented them to her. On stage was also Master Rick, slave gypsie, Master Roy, Master Pam Nic and alex. Thank You all so much for being a part of this and special thanks to MP for running her tail off making sure the boots arrived!!!
Along with NCLC there have been so many other things going on.
Frolicon (which was my first Frolicon) ROCKED!!!!!!! There was so much to do and I had a blast!
Also as some may know Sir Dan (Mr. SCLC) has had heart bypass. As part of a fundraiser to help out with bills several fundraisers have been set forth to help Him out in his time of need. I will also be part of one of these fundraisers on Friday April 29th at Club Cabaret in Hickory NC. There’s gonna be a DRAG U show and YES I will be in FEMALE Drag!!!! So please come out and show your support for Dan or at least hold me up when I fall down in heels.
There’s so much more to be said, but I try not to make journals too lengthy. I would like to thank all the vendors who so graciously donated items for my auction basket for my next Title run at American Brotherhood Weekend that will take place October 7-9 2011 in Chicago at The Leather Archives and Museum!
Thank You ALL for your support!!!!! See you at SELF!!!!!!!!
Mr. SELF 2010