The High Performance Relationship by Tess and Archer

high-performanceJoin us in a fun and interactive workshop where we can all leave with renewed focus and purpose that super-charges our brand new, or even decades-old, relationship.

Authority Transfer Relationships (i.e. M/s, D,s, HoH) can be powerful and intensely meaningful for those involved. While we all know that authority transfer relationships have unique challenges, they are still relationships. These kinds of relationships still need all the exploration, planning, and maintenance that requires self awareness, communication, and synergy that any relationship does for long term success.

Our personal approach to maintain focus and purpose in our relationship is a process of enhancing the capacity of ourselves as individuals to make choices and to transform those choices into desired actions and outcomes that in turn benefit everyone. We will share the process with you as you find ways to bring even higher performance to you and your partner(s).

When we look past compliance, or obedience and authority, we still have two (or more) individuals. We will explore the foundations, driving forces, and actions that hold the keys to success and how to merge individual desires and needs in order to sustain success in the long term.

This is more than communication. Communication is predicated on knowing what needs to be communicated, and often we’re so entrenched in our routines, tasks, and daily activities that we don’t take the time to examine those things. We all have more skill, excellence, and focus we can put into our partner(s). We just don’t often know where to find it, or how to do it.

Before this class, we will send you a little homework (it’s fun!) to identify our individual needs, wants, values, and goals. This self inventory will help you know what you have to offer, and are willing to bring into the dynamic in order for you and your partner(s) to grow and flourish the way that you deserve.

Everyone will leave this weekend with a greater understanding of your partner(s) and yourself. Together we will take all those self inventories (your homework!) and create strategies that accommodate all of them and make you and your relationship perform at even higher levels!

This workshop will help you to build on your existing relationship with a stronger and more concrete understanding, and a more defined purpose. Your plan will include improving ourselves individually in ways that serve the relationship.

Some highlights of the tools you will leave with:


· Learn to better support each other in a meaningful and positive way
· Establish a common language which cultivates more effective communication
· Establishing and agreeing to the ground rules when conflict arises, and the tools to create common ground.
· Learn to empower everyone in the relationship to move towards healthy and content
· Partners taking responsibility for accomplishing the individual and shared goals.
· Learning to hold each other accountable in a positive and healthy way for our agreements and commitments

About the Presenters:
tess and archerArcher and Tess are based In Phoenix, Arizona.  They both serve at Arizona Power Exchange (http://www.ArizonaPowerExchange.org) which serves the Phoenix community with over 500 events each year, The Alternative Lifestyle Relief Foundation (“The Foundation) which is a charity intended as a bridge for those in the lifestyle who suffer a catastrophic event, and support the broader lifestyle in many ways including lots of charity work.

Both are business owners, and bring very different skill sets both to their relationship and their teaching style. Never taking themselves-or anything else- too seriously, their particular brand of teaching is to give everyone the tools to make the best decisions for them, believing that we all need to find our own ‘right’ way. 

Join their always fun and interactive workshops and classes and get a view into how the way you want to live is right, and how you can bring excellence to your life, skills, and relationships every day-with the uniqueness you already possess.

About Archer
Archer is a Phoenix, AZ-based lifestyle mentor, educator and volunteer. As an educator and organizer, he is passionate, inspired and motivating. For the last eight years he has been an active member of Phoenix's local BDSM Dungeon, Arizona Power Exchange (APEX).
Archer enjoys sharing his knowledge and experience with those willing and eager to learn. He developed and led both the “Make-and-Take Workshops” and the “Skillz Workshops” at APEX, and has presented on numerous topics in the Southwestern United States and Canada.

He continues to serve the Arizona Power Exchange and members (www.arizonapowerexchange.org) as President. He has been on its Board of Directors, served as Vice President, and is a staff member for Butchmanns Experience (www.butchmanns-experience.org).

At home, he is currently working on his own shop projects which include new f-ing machines, miscellaneous dungeon furniture creations, and restraints using steel, wood, and leather. Also, he is working to develop an M/s website and blog.
As an avid photographer, Archer brings his passion and inspiration to his photography. He began to explore film photography in 1981 and moved to digital format in 2006. His years of experience in M/s and BDSM afford him unique insight which helps to give his photography rare authenticity. His favorite types of photos are those that are edgy, sensual, and feed the sexual imagination. You can find examples of his photography work at yssp.zenfolio.com. You can find him on FetLife under the screen name ArcherInAZ.

About Tess
Tess is a business owner, so she brings a practical approach to everything she does. Bringing those skills to the Kink World she has taught on presentation, writing, and other practical skills we can apply to our lives both in and out of the dungeon.

Tess reads all the time- everything. Tough to find a subject that she hasn’t stored away ridiculous little facts about. Her specialty is being a generalist. Rarely useful, always fun! She is organized-in her own way, scheduled-as it suits her, and exceptionally principled-much to the chagrin of some!

Service is her highest value and actively seeks opportunities to serve, learn service skills, and teach those service skills she has accomplished. In the last couple of years, she’s turned her passion towards helping others feed their service fetish and provide exceptional service. With her friend Wen she created The Service Arts and together they are preparing to launch a series of books! To learn more about the Service Series please visit The Service Arts at http://www.theservicearts.com.

She enjoys the art in her kink, and finds opportunity to bring beauty and creativity to what we do participating in things like artistic wax, liquid latex, needles, staples, artistic violet wand etching, and is currently working on mastering cutting. On the Dungeon floor, she appreciates being able to provide a bit of theater with performance art, and elaborate scenes designed to entertain as well as be a whole bunch of fun!

Tess has been involved in the BDSM Community for many years, but became a fixture at APEX (http://www.arizonapowerexchange.org) upon accepting an Officer position in 2010.. Excited about learning and teaching the things she learns, she has a passion for helping people embrace the things that make them happy, and live their lives with their own versions of excellence! Tess also produces the Arizona Master slave contest (http://arizonamasterslave.com).

Tess is committed to making the world a better place, and if the people around her aren’t careful she drags them along! You can find Tess on Fetlife as BabyItsColdOut.